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10 Common Estate Planning Mistakes Your Family Cannot Afford to Make—Part 1

Updated: Apr 5, 2023

Because estate planning involves actively thinking about and planning for frightening topics like death, old age, and crippling disability, many people put it off or simply ignore it together until it’s too late. Sadly, this unwillingness to face reality often creates serious hardship, expense, and trauma for those loved ones you leave behind.

To complicate matters, the recent proliferation of online estate planning document services, such as LegalZoom®, Rocket Lawyer®, and, may have misled you into thinking that estate planning is a do-it-yourself (DIY) affair, which involves nothing more than filling out the right legal forms. However, proper estate planning entails far more than filling out legal forms.

In fact, without a thorough understanding of how the legal process works upon your death or incapacity and applies specifically to your family dynamics and the nature of your assets, you will likely make serious mistakes when creating a DIY will or trust. And the worst part is that these mistakes will not be discovered until you are gone—and the very people you were trying to protect will be the ones stuck cleaning up the mess you created just to save a few bucks.

Estate planning is definitely not a one-size-fits-all endeavor. Even if you think your particular situation is simple, that turns out to almost never be the case. To demonstrate just how complicated estate planning can be, here are 10 of the most common estate planning mistakes, starting with the worst blunder of all: failing to create an estate plan.

1. Leaving No Estate Plan At All If you die without an estate plan, the court will decide who inherits your assets, and this can lead to all sorts of problems. Who is entitled to your property is determined by our state’s intestate succession laws, which hinge largely upon whether you are married and if you have children. Spouses and children are given top priority, followed by your other closest living family members. If you are single with no children, your assets typically go to your parents and siblings, and then more distant relatives if you have no living parents or siblings. If no living relatives can be located, your assets go to the state. It is important to note that state intestacy laws only apply to blood relatives, so unmarried partners and close friends would get nothing. If you want someone outside of your family to inherit your assets, having a plan is an absolute must.

If you are married with children and die with no plan, it might seem like things would go fairly smoothly, but that is not always the case. If you are married, but have children from a previous relationship, for example, the court could give everything to your spouse and leave your children with nothing. In another instance, you might be estranged from your kids or not trust them with money, but without a plan, state law controls who gets your assets, not you.

Moreover, dying without a plan could also cause your surviving loved ones to get into an ugly court battle over who has the most right to your property. Or if you become incapacitated, your loved ones could even get into conflict around your medical care. You may think this would never happen to your loved ones, but we see families torn apart by it all the time, even when there is no significant financial wealth involved.

As your lawyer, we will help you create a plan that handles your assets and your medical care in the exact manner you wish, taking into account all of your family dynamics, so your death or incapacity will not be any more painful or expensive for your family than it needs to be.

2. Thinking A Will Alone Is Enough Lots of people, particularly older folks, believe that a will is the only estate planning tool they need. While a will is a fundamental part of nearly every adult’s estate plan, which can ensure that your assets go where you want them to go in the event of your death, using a will by itself comes with some serious limitations, including the following:

  1. Wills require your family to go through the court process known as probate, which can not only be lengthy and expensive, but it is also completely open to the public and frequently creates ugly conflicts among your loved ones.

  2. Wills do not offer you any protection if you become incapacitated by illness or injury and are unable to make your own medical, financial, and legal decisions.

  3. Wills do not cover jointly owned assets or those with beneficiary designations, such as life insurance policies and 401(k) plans.

  4. Wills do not provide any protection or guidance for when and how your heirs take control of their inheritance.

  5. Naming guardians for your minor children in your will can leave them vulnerable to being placed in the care of strangers.

Given these facts, if your estate plan consists of a will alone, you are missing out on many valuable safeguards for your assets, while also guaranteeing your family will have to go to court if you become incapacitated or when you die. Fortunately, all of the above issues can be effectively managed using trust. That said, as you will see below, trusts are by no means a panacea—these documents come with their own unique drawbacks, especially if you try to prepare one on your own.

3. Creating A Trust & Not Properly Funding It Many people now know that trusts can keep your family out of court, and you may think you can just go online to set up your own trust or have a lawyer do it with you as a one-size-fits-all solution. While that might be true, particularly if you have very simple assets and few family members, even in that case, you are likely to overlook one of the most important parts of creating a trust: “funding” it.

An unfunded trust is a trust that exists, but that does not hold any of your assets because you did not retitle them properly, or because you acquired new assets after creating your trust. This is all too common. If this is true for you, it will leave your family with a big mess, even though you have officially created your trust. 

Funding your trust properly is extremely important because if any assets are not properly funded, the trust will not work, and your family will have to go to court in order to take ownership of that property. And when you acquire new assets after your trust is created, you must make sure those assets are properly funded into your trust as well.

While many lawyers will create a trust for you, few will ensure your assets are properly inventoried and funded into your trust, and even fewer will ensure the inventory of your assets is kept up-to-date as your life and assets change over time. This might sound crazy, but it is actually common practice among many estate planning firms—but not ours.

We will make sure all of your assets are properly titled when you initially create your trust, as well as ensure that any new assets you acquire over the course of your life are inventoried and properly funded to your trust. This keeps your assets from being lost and prevents your family from being inadvertently forced into court because your plan was never fully completed.

In light of these facts, if your estate plan includes a trust, it is critical to work with us to ensure it works exactly as you intended.

4. Not Leaving An Up-To-Date Inventory Of Assets

As mentioned above, even if you have properly funded your assets into your trust, your estate plan will be worthless if your heirs do not know what you have or where to find it. In fact, there is more than $58 billion dollars worth of lost assets in the U.S. Department of Unclaimed Property right now. And that is all because someone died or became incapacitated without letting anyone know how to locate their assets.

This is especially critical for digital assets like cryptocurrency, social media, email, and data stored in the cloud. If you have not properly addressed these assets in your estate plan, there is a good chance that they will be lost forever if something happens to you. For all of these reasons, creating and maintaining a comprehensive inventory of all of your assets is a standard part of every estate plan we create. With our support, you can rest assured that your family will know exactly what assets you own and how to locate them should anything happen to you. 

Keeping your inventory up-to-date so that your family is never confused about your assets is our specialty. Schedule a meeting with us to incorporate your inventory with your other estate planning strategies,

5. Failing To Regularly Review & Update Your Estate Plan In addition to keeping an updated asset inventory, it is vital that you regularly review and update all of your planning documents. Far too often people prepare a will or trust, then put it into a drawer or on a shelf, and forget about it. Yet, an estate plan is not a one-and-done deal. As time passes, your life circumstances change, the laws change, and your assets change, you must update your plan to reflect these changes—that is, if you want your plan to actually work for your loved ones and keep them out of court and conflict.

We recommend reviewing your plan annually to make sure its terms are up to date. And be sure to immediately update your plan following major life events like divorce, births, deaths, and inheritances. We actually have built-in processes to make sure this happens—be sure to ask us about them.

Beyond sheer necessity, an annual life review can be a beautiful ritual that puts you at ease, helps you to set the course of your life, and keeps your goals front and center, knowing that you have got your affairs in order and completely updated each year.

Next week, in part two, we will wrap up our list of the 10 most common estate-planning mistakes. Until then, if you are ready to get your estate planning taken care of the right way with ease and affordability, start by contacting us for a Family Wealth Planning Session. Your Family Wealth Planning Session is custom-designed to your assets, your family, and your wishes, and to educate you on the best way to reach your objectives for the people you love most.

This article is a service of Reflections Life Planning LLC. We do not just draft documents; we ensure you make informed and empowered decisions about life and death, for yourself and the people you love. That’s why we offer a Family Wealth Planning Session™, during which you will get more financially organized than you’ve ever been before and make all the best choices for the people you love. You can begin by calling our office today to schedule a Family Wealth Planning Session and mention this article to find out how to get this $750 session at no charge.

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